Question: I disagree with some things my parents did when raising me. I want to parent differently, but don’t want to go too far in the opposite direction. How can I correct my parents’ mistakes without overcompensating too much?
Answer: Many individuals are afraid of becoming their parents. Even though we love our parents, as we mature and foster our own lifestyles we develop different values and priorities. Few things make us question priorities like becoming a parent.
You can still offer your child important guidance without going overboard. The important thing is to engage with your child early on and continue that engagement throughout his or her life.
As an engaged parent, you will learn to find a balance between what you want for your child and what he or she needs. Regardless of the parenting style you use, start practicing these techniques with your young child, which you can continue as he or she becomes an adult.
Fundamentally, we all want the best for our children. Even if you disagree with your parents’ techniques, they also wanted the best for you. It is important to remember that you can give your child the tools to become an independent, caring, and moral adult, but you can’t force him or her to become a specific person.
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